Today’s post was going to be a continuation of party details however I have heard new this morning that has tilted my world slightly. Over the last few days I have found out about two couples we know who have had their marriage break down.
For me these separations are unexpected. These are solid couples who appear to have it together … I feel sad that they are going through so much hurt and pain, I feel terrible that for both of them it was so unexpected, obviously they have felt things aren’t right but didn’t realise the drastic thoughts their other halves were contemplating.
It makes me think and worry about just how solid the whole concept of “marriage” is. For me, its forever, when I looked into my husband’s eyes on my wedding day I was promising that he will always be the MOST important thing in my life and I would always put him first. In my head when he said “I do” he was promising to do the same.
Yes I realise that my idea is totally black and white and that all sorts of shades of grey twist their way into your perfect little world but I would hope that we are strong enough as a couple to work through them. But these breakups have me doubting that, these were not passionate, high emotion relationships. These are quiet, steady couples who to all intents are purposes seemed to have it together.
It makes you think, wonder and question – if it can happen to them … really it can happen to anyone.
As you would know, my husband is away A LOT and I have always had this unwavering belief that if our relationship is strong enough to survive that … we can survive anything. The question is how do you actually KNOW that its all going to work out like a fairy-tale. How do you know if there is a happily ever after if the ever after could end at any moment.
Obviously this has shaken me, I don’t like shades of grey … they make me doubt myself and others. You love me or you don’t, I am enough or I’m not ….
I feel like I should put in a lesson learnt here about never taking things for granted. Think about your other half the same way you did in those first months you found each other …. Make time to remember and relive all those romantic, special moment and just hold on to each other as tightly as you can with your eyes squeezed closed.
One thing I can tell you is that I can’t wait till Wednesday when hubby comes home and he can cuddle me close and tell me it’s all going to be ok.